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Dealing with disappointment

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We’ve all had to deal with disappointment in our lives at some point, perhaps due to unrequited love, our expectations not being met, or a dent in our pride. There’s no doubt that the disappointment we can feel from life experiences can knock us for six.

It’s easy for people to brush it off and say, hey, get over it, life happens; but sometimes, the disappointment is more than what’s right in front of us, as it opens up old wounds to cause a loss of hope. A hope that life would be different, a hope that feelings would be reciprocated, a hope that what you’ve built up in our mind, will come true.

In these situations, it can be helpful to sit with those uncomfortable emotions to evaluate what it is we’re actually feeling. If the disappointment is an accumulation of many factors, then this can be a great time to really unpick what’s going on. Perhaps there’s something missing in our life that we were expecting someone else to fill, perhaps we wanted the situation to turn out differently but got the same result as before, or perhaps we’re disappointed with ourselves for wasting so much time on something that clearly wasn’t giving us what we needed.

Whatever the situation, it's important to recognise that we do not have control over other people’s behaviours and reactions. Instead, we can try and get comfortable with having trust that things will work out the way they should. We can get comfortable with placing our energy into the things within our control and holding onto hope with a bigger picture in mind, rather than the specific details we’ve become disappointed by. We can also allow the disappointment, to drive us further closer to the dream that we’ve held onto.

We have the power within us to make great change for ourselves, and dealing with disappointment can be a great catalyst for this.

What have you been disappointed by recently, and how can you turn this into a champion for change?

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